What’s Getting In My Way?
What’s getting in the way of me having what I want?
Why can’t I do what I know will help me create the life I want to have?
I want to quit overdrinking.
I want to quit overeating.
I want to quit smoking.
But I can’t get myself to take the first step and follow through. Why?
The simple answer is it’s new.
The simple fact that the thing you want is new is a huge reason it isn’t easy to have.
That doesn’t make sense.
I love new things.
New things are great.
I agree with you.
New things are great.
But your mind doesn’t always agree.
Your mind views most new things as a threat.
It doesn’t know what having them might mean.
And that’s where you run into the problem.
Anything unknown needs to be avoided at all costs.
This kind of protection from the unknown is an essential function of your mind that has been around for a long, long time.
This kind of thinking served early humans well and helped ensure our survival.
Keeping you scared to venture into the unknown jungle and safe in your familiar cave is a big reason why we’re still here.
But this fear-based thinking doesn’t always serve you well today, and most of the time, it isn’t necessary.
But your mind doesn’t know that.
Keeping you in your cave away from the unknown jungle of the alcohol-free, healthy dieting, nonsmoking world is where you should be.
Nice and safe with what you know.
But not what you want.
To get what you want, first, you need to recognize that this fear-based thinking is what’s keeping you in your cave.
And second, you need to recognize that to create new results in your life means you’ll have to take action when you feel uncomfortable.
You have to.
If you want the new thing, just know taking the first few steps will always be uncomfortable.
Your mind will fight you and offer you excuses to keep you “safe.”
You’ll easily recognize these thoughts when you begin to consider venturing into the jungle.
They’ll sound something like…
- “Why don’t you wait until later?”
- “Now isn’t the right time.”
- “Don’t you have to do that other thing first?”
- “Having this new thing is going to be a problem.”
- “What if this doesn’t work out how you think it will?”
- “Are you sure you want to give up that other thing?”
- “This isn’t going to be easy.”
- “I don’t think you can do it.”
Your mind is awesome at filling you with fear and doubt and giving you excuses to put off the unknown.
We all do it.
Don’t get frustrated or beat yourself up for doing it.
It just means your mind is doing its job very well.
But that doesn’t mean you should give up or give in either.
Go after the thing you want.
Just realize and accept that you’re going to be a little uncomfortable at first.
But so what?
You’re going to get the new thing!
Go do it.
Be willing to trade a little discomfort now for a lot of comfort and joy later.
One other thing, realize everyone deals with this.
Even the highest achievers feel doubt and the uncertainty their brain offers up to protect them when they consider doing something new.
What allows them to achieve more is their decision not to listen.
They take action and do it anyway.
You can choose not to listen and take action anyway too.
Believe in yourself and the future you want.
It’s waiting for you, and the clock is ticking…