You Can Change Your Life
With Life Coaching – Part I
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I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about how to let people know who I am and how I can help them.
So I’ve been trying to decide what kind of content to create and deliver to accomplish this goal.
During this thought process, it occurred to me that there is an endless supply of self-help and self-improvement books, blogs, podcasts, and videos that promise to help people get what they want and live fulfilling lives.
Yet most people don’t realize they control how they feel, their actions, and results.
Even fewer people know how to make a single change in their lives when they desperately or even casually want to.
I was one of those people.
I needed and wanted to change my life.
I tried, but I kept failing.
So I looked for help.
I read all kinds of self-help books.
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I listened to hours and hours of self-improvement tapes, cds, and podcasts too.
When it came time to select a college major, I chose Psychology, hoping maybe I could find the answer and get a college degree at the same time.
That didn’t work either.
I got the degree but didn’t find any answers to help me solve my issue.
I met directly with psychologists, psychiatrists, and therapists.
Still no help.
Nothing changed.
No answers.
So I kept looking.
But no one could explain to me what was creating my problem or how to change it.
They had labels to give me and recommended pills to take and meetings to go to.
They would listen to what I had to say.
They would offer their opinion about my situation, and they would make suggestions of other ways to respond.
Most of the people I talked to were well-intentioned.
They focused on addressing the symptoms, but they couldn’t explain the cause.
They never offered a meaningful solution that would eliminate the problem.
And they couldn’t guide me to find my own solution so I could change my life the way I wanted and needed to.
Then, I met with a Life Coach, and I found all the answers I was looking for.
They explained exactly what the cause of my problem was.
They knew exactly how to guide me to find the solution, and more importantly, they knew they didn’t have the answer.
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They knew I did.
And they showed me how to find it.
That’s critically important.
A good Life Coach doesn’t pretend to know what you should do.
They don’t pretend to have the answer to your problem, and they don’t offer their opinion either.
They know you have all the answers you need inside you.
Their only job is to show you how your thoughts create your results.
Then they guide you to find the thoughts you decide to choose to create the change you decide you want.
That’s what my Life Coach did for me and how she helped me save my life.
The whole reason I became a Certified Life Coach is I don’t want people to struggle for 30 years like I did to find someone who knows how to help them help themselves.
There’s no reason to suffer when you don’t want to.
I didn’t know it before, but I created every bit of my suffering.
I needed someone who understood what was happening and why to guide me so I could take control and change.
And that’s exactly what happened.
My goal is to help people, just like my coach helped me.
I keep asking why is this kind of help so hard to find?
Why don’t psychologists, psychiatrists, and therapists know what this Life Coach does and what I know now?
With all the self-help information out there, why do so few people know why they’re living the lives they’re experiencing?
Why do even fewer people know how to change and create the results they want?
How many people have spent a lifetime looking for the answer without finding it and have given up looking out of frustration?
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My mission is to resolve these issues.
I’m going to do this by using examples from my life and teach the principles of Life Coaching.
I will show you how you’re creating the results you’re getting by explaining how I’m doing this too.
I’m going to show you how you can change your life by changing mine.
I want to give hope to anyone who is frustrated and doesn’t believe change is possible.
I was you.
I was right where you are, and there is an answer.
There is a way out.
Change is possible.
Please don’t get the impression I believe I have everything figured out.
I don’t, and I never will.
And that’s okay.
What I do know is how to figure out why I’m getting the results I’m getting.
Once I’ve figured out where I am and why, I know how to move in small, believable thought steps to where I want to be.
I’m just like everybody else.
Sometimes I don’t see what I’m thinking, feeling, or doing as a problem when it is.
I stay in habitual patterns because they’re comfortable, and I ignore things I don’t want to change.
I stubbornly hold on to thoughts that aren’t serving me in a way that I would choose if I looked at the situation honestly and openly.
And even when I do recognize what to change and begin to move from where I am to where I want to be, I don’t always follow through.
I’m human.
Perfectly imperfect.
Flawed in all the best ways that make me, well… me.
The great news about all this is it provides me with a never-ending supply of lessons to experience and then teach.
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I hope you’ll be able to relate to part of what I describe and apply it to your own life to understand more clearly what you’re experiencing and make a change if you decide to.
Most of what I will describe is subtle and not overly dramatic.
Most of life is that way.
Even the dramatic life changes occur in small, barely noticeable moments that accumulate over time into something we consider to be big.
Creating the life you want comes from deliberately choosing your thoughts from one small moment to another.
These truly life-changing opportunities come to us disguised as the mundane moments we barely notice and in the unwanted thoughts, feelings, and experiences we wish we weren’t having.
But when we take the time to notice them, embrace them, and mold them to fit our conscious desires, they become the significant, life-changing building blocks that create our world.
I hope you’ll join me as I relay my life experiences as I endeavor to create my results and solve my problems using deliberate thinking and the principles of life coaching.
See you in the next blog.