Quitting Drinking Changes Everything
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The benefits are greater than I expected.
I had no idea how impactful changing just one thing would be.
Everything is different.
Every part of my life has transformed in ways I didn’t anticipate.
If you’ve watched any video I’ve made or read any of my blogs, you know I quit drinking and smoking weed.
For thirty years, I drank and smoked to escape.
It was more than a daily habit.
It consumed my entire life.
So I guess I should have seen how eliminating it would have the impact that it has.
I didn’t.
But who cares if you don’t see a tremendous gift like this coming.
An unexpected blessing like this makes it even more enjoyable.
The best part is I get to open this gift and enjoy it all over again every day.
And the most surprising thing about it is how easy it was to do.
For over 30 years, little by little, the choices I was making to escape my life eroded my desire to even be alive.
Bear with me.
This takes a minute to explain.
I didn’t want to die.
I wasn’t suicidal.
I was once.
Fortunately, that period came and went.
What I’m talking about is different.
This ever-present feeling wasn’t a desire to end my life.
I was disinterested in being alive.
I didn’t look forward to things unless it was a new bag of weed, the next bottle of booze, or some other form of escape like a vacation or a movie I could lose myself in.
I didn’t have goals.
I wasn’t trying to accomplish anything meaningful.
I didn’t care about my health.
I was just existing.
And I didn’t care if or when that existence ended.
I didn’t want to die, but I wasn’t interested in living a long life either.
Every day was painful.
A prolonged existence just wasn’t appealing.
Seeing a Life Coach changed everything.
I went with one goal in mind – to stop drinking and smoking.
And I did.
That one achievement has made every single part of my life different.
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Now I have huge goals I work towards every day.
They mean more to me than I can explain.
I’m completely emersed in and satisfied by pursuing them.
Every little step brings me joy while I’m doing it.
Getting there will be great, but the journey forward is a blessing I never thought I’d experience.
I exercise every day.
This year I’ve been telling myself I’m training to be 75 years old.
Next year I’ll be training to be 76.
I recently listened to a podcast about the benefits of anti-aging daily supplements.
Guess who’s added taking longevity supplements to their daily routine?
I’m eating healthier than ever before.
I’ve lowered my cholesterol and have dropped over 30 pounds.
I sing in the kitchen when I’m preparing meals.
That had never happened before.
I noticed this between my fourth and fifth coaching sessions for the first time.
Singing!
What the hell?
I couldn’t believe it.
I was overwhelmed with emotion when I realized what was happening.
I was happy.
I was happy for no other reason than because I was alive.
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I used to keep my emotions and feelings at a safe distance.
I rarely allowed myself to feel anything.
I would drown my emotions in alcohol.
Or I would obscure them in a cloud of smoke.
I was protecting myself from the bad stuff…
But the good stuff got lost in the haze too.
Now I want to feel everything.
Don’t get the idea that every single experience in my life leads to tears of joy.
There are still things that occur that I wouldn’t choose on purpose.
But I don’t run from them.
I know I can choose my response to every circumstance I experience.
Sometimes my immediate choice of thought and reaction isn’t pleasant.
That’s okay.
Better to feel bad than to make it worse by running from it.
What’s different is I don’t stay stuck ruminating over the bad thoughts and feelings for long periods like I used to.
I know how to change my thoughts, feelings, actions, and results.
I learned control.
I learned how to deliberately choose my thoughts.
I know how to create any result I want.
I’m not special.
Anybody can do this.
And trust me when I tell you, it’s way easier than you think.
The surprising thing is how few of us know how.
Most people don’t know they create their feelings, actions, and results.
Even fewer know how to make a change in their life when they want to.
The skills I learned aren’t taught in public schools or college.
The therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists I met with didn’t teach me any of this.
I learned it from a Life Coach.
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Then I went to the best Life Coaching school there is because I had to learn how to help people like me.
That’s what I do.
That’s my mission.
That’s my purpose.
To help people stop struggling and take control of their lives.
Some people share my struggle.
Most don’t.
Most of you aren’t disinterested in being alive.
But many of you have changes you want to make and are struggling to do it on your own.
You don’t have to struggle.
Changing your life can be easy.
It doesn’t require anything you don’t already have.
There are only a few new things to learn.
Learning them will give you all the power and control to change anything you want.
Big or small changes.
It doesn’t matter.
You can quit drinking completely or just cut back a little.
You can quit smoking cigarettes or lose 10 pounds.
Maybe you want to improve your relationship with your spouse or make more money.
It doesn’t matter what your goal is.
Stop struggling.
Ask for help.
You’re going to learn more than how to make that one change.
You’re going to learn how to create any life you want.
And you’ll be surprised how easy it can be.
You can do it.
I’d love to show you how.
The benefits will exceed your expectations too.